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Welcome!

Welcome to Finding Your Path to Happiness!

Life can be exciting. Life can be exactly what you want it to be.
All you have to do is change what you are doing.

But then you know that…

The challenge is to know what to change and how to change it. Sometimes the direction of that change is difficult. Sometimes it just feels like walking in circles. But when you work through your creative process, life becomes exciting and worth pursuing!

You are a uniquely magnificent individual with the Universe at your feet. Join me in discovering the truth of you and find your path to creativity, happiness and success

Express Yourself

Discover Who You Are

Live Your Passion

Find Your Path

Be Inspired

Create Success

Be True to Yourself

Eliminate Regret

It All Starts Now

Deliberate Intention

Deliberate intention, Manifesting our Good, Setting our vibrational tone, etc.: All very descriptive words/concepts and also, potentially, very confusing.
It is really interesting how the search for a better, more fulfilling and successful life can get bogged down in the terms. What does it mean to “deliberately intend” something? What is “manifesting”? And how the heck does anyone set a vibrational tone?

“Deliberate” is something intentional. It is a desired outcome. Of course, it means taking action to create the circumstances that are intended to happen. “Intention” means that you want it to happen. So, I guess the easiest definition is taking some sort of action knowing that it is bringing out the desired result.
But what kind of action are we talking about? Initially it is all about knowing what we want. Have you figured that part out yet? Do you know what you want to do for the rest of your life (at least what you believe that to be at this very moment)? If you are happy/passionate about what it is that you are already doing then the purpose of Deliberate Intention is to get even more joy and fulfillment out of what you do. Finding a better way, expanding it, moving it into another direction that will bring about even more joy than you have experienced thus far.

If you haven’t figured out what “floats your boat” in life, you will need to do a few things to figure it out. Mostly, it will involve clearing your mind through a process called Meditation followed by another technique called Visualization and, finally, putting it down on paper so that you can explore it more concretely. (I go into this in great detail in my new book: “It’s All About Me” available at Barnes & Noble and on Amazon (There is also an e-version out) But I am also happy to share here because this is my passion: helping others awaken to the individually and wonderfully unique aspects of themselves and using the realizations that follow to move into a life of joy and fulfillment.

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Only One Path to the Top of the Mountain?

I think we can all agree that no two people are alike. From fingerprints to taste buds, from shoe laces to hairstyles, we are all different. So it would not be surprising to learn that, given the task of finding a way to the top of the Mountain, everyone would have a different idea. Likewise, everyone would probably have a different idea of what they would find when they reached the top. But that is as it should be. Anything less than differing ideas would make this a very boring existence, indeed.
Let’s look at the many different paths that can be taken to the top of the mountain. As varied as the approaches might be, there is a single goal: to get to the top. But what of the journey along the way? Should that be a consideration in choosing one’s path? You know its all journey until you get there. Will the path have twists and turns? Will you encounter obstacles along the way? Can you predict what they will be? More than likely there will be some that you may not have expected.
It’s an interesting dichotomy. Each path is different but each is traveled with the intent of getting to a common end. Each has its own make-up, its own terrain, obstacles, successes, places to rest and each is chosen with individual intentions and expectations.
What would happen if we switched paths with another traveler? There would still be the intent to reach the top, there would still be turns, obstacles, resting places and so forth, just as the original path chosen. Yet the goal is to get to the top.
The answer to the question is obvious on its face. There is more than one path to the top of the mountain. Is there one path that is better than another? I guess that depends on the outlook of the person walking the path.
What do you see in this path that you have walked? I’ll bet there are many things that everyone can see but what you see from your perspective is what really counts.

Step 4: How Big is Your “But”?

1327154265eN7XXoFor the vast majority of us, having an idea of what we can be passionate about is about as far as it goes. The reason is the BUT. 
So how big is your “but?” What are the reasons that you have decided not to pursue your dream? I am mot trying to be harsh by calling it a decision but that’s really what it is. Decisions are made all day, every day. What time to set the alarm, what to eat, the kind of shampoo and toothpaste, whether to buy a car and, if so, what kind, and the list goes on. 
What influences us to make decisions about our everyday lives? Cost? Availability? What other people are doing? What other people are thinking? In particular, what other people may be thinking about us?  Probably. But what other reasons (excuses) have been keeping you from moving forward with your dream besides all of that? Its that list of “Yeah, but’s” isn’t it.  Yes, I would love to do x, but… Or I have always dreamed of doing Y but….
So when I ask you for the size of your “but” what I am really asking is that you take stock of yourself, your life, your desires and the excuses you are making to keep yourself from going forward. Take a close look at them. In fact, write down what you dream about doing and then below it, write down everything you can think of about why you have not done it yet. Your list of excuses will Immediately the list shrink and, when you really look at it the excuses won’t really seem that insurmountable. 
“I don’t know how to do it.” Well, who does and where can you learn?
“I don’t have the money.” So how much money would it take and how long to save it? Are there others who have the same dream and would like to partner up? Share the cost? 
“I have way too many other things on my plate to do first.” Have you looked at that list of stuff? Are there things that really need to be done first? How long would it take to clear some of that clutter? Can you devote some time on your calendar each week for your dream?
How big is your “but list” really? Are you using that list to keep you stuck in your current reality? How bad will you feel when you have allowed so much time to go by that your “but list” has become your “if only” list?
Think about how you would feel just taking one small step in the direction of your dream. It doesn’t have to be a big step, just a step. Remember, one degree of change can be all that is needed to turn your bubbling pot of boiling water into the steam needed to get your engine running. 
I think Martin Luther King, Jr. said it very well: “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.

Step 3 With a Patriotic Flair

images-3Unknown-1The 4th of July! Fireworks, family, celebrating freedom and a new ideal never quite seen in the history of man! A culmination of thought, of dreams, of movingsecuredownload forward with a passion for more! What a perfect example of this third step in finding fulfillment in life!
This day represents a letting go of past obstacles, of realizing that we are not bound by the will,or perceptions of others. Our founders came here to get away from the old, from perceptions of lack and to move forward with their ideals! (Step one.) They arrived with little and that is where they started. Where else could they start but from where they were? (Step 2)
They had an idea of what they didn’t want and that’s why they left their old world in the first place. They sought to pursue what they did like. So, step three is to figure out what you want to do. It starts with a question: What would you do if you knew you could not fail? I would hope it to be something that you really love doing but you have not tried because of all the things that get in most peoples’ way. (Rent, Mortgage, car payment, taking care of the family, work, inexperience, cost, etc., etc., etc.)
So ask yourself what it is that you love to do! What would you do if money were not a consideration? If failure were not an option? Once you have identified whatever “it” is, write “it” down. Once you have written “it” down, keep “it” where you can see it. Keep “it” in the forefront of your mind and see if you don’t start taking steps in that direction.
And if I can’t figure out what “it” is, you ask? If you are one of those who has never given much thought to that burning sensation for excitement that you always mistook for indigestion, start by writing down things that you like to do, that you are good at, that people come to you for help with. These might give you some ideas. Regardless of our conscious recognition of such things, we tend to gravitate to those things we find enjoyable, so there is going to be some aspect of what you do that will lead you to the epiphany of your life’s desires.
Here’s an exercise for you: make a small kite (a diamond shaped piece of paper, with a string attached at the bottom for a tail), take some pieces of fabric and write your dreams on them and then tie them to the kite tail. Hang it up on the wall or from the ceiling and imagine your kite of dreams as it soars into the limitless sky. There is a universe of limitless possibilities waiting for you out there. You just have to choose one and take a step towards it.
Tune in next time for the next step where we will identify some ways of helping make your dreams come to fruition.
Gerry
“It’s All About Me”

The Second Step in Finding Fulfillment

Hopefully you have had some time to think about that first step. If not, that’s okay. You will when you are ready. Everyone moves at their own pace, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. This is not a race nor should you feel pressured to move forward any faster than your comfort level will allow.
The second step comes in two parts. Part one is revisiting step one until you have a clear understanding that your past is the shaper of who you have come to be, as well as a directional indicator of things to come…if you allow it.
As you have seen in “It’s All About Me,” there is only one person who has lived your life and that is you. Your spouse, significant other, friends and family can share their own opinions based on their own life experiences, but unless Mr. Spock gave them a lesson in mind-melding, they will not have felt your feelings, seen from your eyes or stood in your shoes. Any advise they try to give, no matter good their intentions, can only be based on their own perspectives of life. (And those attempts at advice are also part of what has brought you to where you are.)
What we are talking about here is perspective (YOURS).
Everything you have done, not done or thought of doing has resulted in a feeling. Good, bad or indifferent, you have felt something about each and every action, inaction, statement and comment encountered in your life. Even reading this is causing you to think and feel. The question is whether those thoughts and feelings are being impacted by similar throughout and feelings (or reactions) you have experienced in your past. Are there triggers that cause you to think and feel a certain way? Probably. Are these reactions/thoughts/feelings/opinions you have formed valid, or are you allowing triggers (automatic and unconscious reactions to given stimuli) to dictate your perspective of the event? Think about it and then go to the next line.
So here is the second step: Acknowledge that your past experiences have an effect on how you perceive things today, and be cognizant of how those past experiences can trigger perceptions (which can then trigger actions, inactions, etc) can cause you to keep spinning on a merry-go-round of always bing on the move but never really going anywhere. I call this conscious acknowledgment “critical thinking.” No, that does not mean to criticize yourself for having triggers. (Incidentally, triggers come from a very legitimate instinct for self-preservation, which will be discussed again later and also in my book.)
So, the next time you have an experience (action, inaction, hearing someone say something that you may otherwise perceive as being about you, etc) will you be giving in to some pre-programmed trigger based on your past experiences or will you step off the merry-go-round and onto a more exciting ride?stock-photo-carousel-in-a-square-in-florence-italy-142109407

The First Step in Finding Fulfillment

UnknownThere is only one place to begin any search. It is the same place we have all heard over and over again. Perhaps in different words or formations of words, but nevertheless, always the same: You can only start from where you are. 
The usual response? “Oh thanks. Another riddle. What the heck does that mean: start from where you are?” Although the answer may be simple, it also requires some thought, some work and a willingness to accept the possibility of change.
To start from where you are is to understand that those places that you have been looking, those haunting mistakes of your past, those worries about the future are exactly the wrong places. Yes, the past is important, but only from the perspective of acknowledging that our past is full of experiences that were either pleasant, unpleasant or somewhere between. The other aspect of our past is to realize that many of us get caught up in it to the exclusion of all else. We “live from the past” so to speak, blindly and unconsciously making the same choices, hanging with the same people (good bad or indifferent), and all the while wondering why nothing in our present has changed. 
What we must do, what YOU must do, if you are to experience something different; if you are to find fulfillment, is to begin from the only place you can; and that is in the here and now. But this time you must fog forwarding a  different way than you have always done. You must stop living from your past. It is enough to say that your past has brought you to where you are today. It is enough to recognize that your past experiences have brought valuable lessons from which to learn. Once you have done that, let it go and get over it. 
Learn from your past. It is a valuable source of information. But whatever those experiences are, they do not define your future. What you do from here, however, will.
That should be enough to get you thinking. Sleep on it and check in again for your next step.

Your Future Awaits

disney splash 3As I sit back and surrender to the great expanse of consciousness, I know that the days ahead of me are filled with excitement and wonder and love. I relax in the knowing that my preparations are complete; that my journey, which begins in my expectation of all things good, is filled with just that. I declare my knowing of this to be complete and without question. My suitcase is filled with all that I require to prepare for and to experience the joy of travel, of companionship with those who share my path and with all of those who I meet along the way. 
The sun is bright overhead, raining its warm rays upon me, clearing away any clouds of doubt or apprehension and leaving only the comfort of knowing that I travel in safety. 
It is with God’s perfection that I travel this path before me. It can be no other way for I, as a child and co-creator in consciousness declare it to be so. 
As I ride along my highway of wonder, I give my attention to those things that bring me joy. My camera takes each picture as perfectly as my eyes have seen and continue to bring me back to that moment of joy when that button was first pushed, recording that instant for all-time. My ears hear with an accuity never before heard. My eyes see all and my skin revels with each breath, rippling with the joy of the experience as each goose bump  forms at the sight/sound and feeling of my journey. 
I am a co-creator of my experience and I know that as I let this word fly into the ever expanding consciousness of the all that is, that it is accepted and magnified and returned to me in ways more remarkable than can be described on this earthly plain. 
I am so grateful for this time away, for the experience of this adventure, for all of the wonder and excitement that it brings and I accept it for everything that I know it is. It is my joint creation with the all that is and it brings me no less that the perfection that I Know it to be. I declare it to be so knowing that it already is in my mind and in the mind of God, and so it is. 

Life’s Unfoldment

IMG_0412We are born into an age of wonder where everything sparks an excited look, a curious touch, a new smell or taste; and it is all experienced in the comfort of knowing that there is a love that supports us; which holds us warmly to its breast where the sweet beat of life resounds within, as and for us.
As we grow we continue our search for that new excitement, that new sail that will move our boat further on its path to happiness. Sometimes we are saddened as we steer ourselves out of the harbor that we have come to know and love, but our sadness quickly turns to an excited anticipation as the wind and current take us to our new unfoldment. And so we bask in the sunlight of life as it takes us from one destination, one experience to the next. We feel the warmth of that sunlight and it reminds us of our youth; when we were coddled and embraced in the loving arms of our nearest and dearest.
We glide smoothly across life’s waters in our ship of discovery and watch as clouds reflect through the ripples of water into the endless sky. We allow our gaze to move with these reflections up, into the blue, and watch these pillars of white let loose their seeds of possibilities back into the greater form from which they came. And when the seeds have gone, we watch these clouds of wonder float gently across our horizon, changing in shape and hue as if mirroring our deepest desires.
There is a richness to this life. It is inspired by our attention yet forgotten when that attention is taken away. Still it remains part of our expanding awareness of ourselves as well as the greater Awareness from which all things have come.
I am grateful in my experience, for it is full of wonder, full of mystery and excitement, ever unfolding, ever expanding, ever giving birth to the new. It is my unfoldment and it is given to me as it has always been give: with warmth, through caring and with love.

A Day of Remembrance

Memorial Day: a day for remembrance, a day for holding loved ones close.

I remember the faces of those who have gone before and I see their legacy in those who remain.
I see their smiles, forever imprinted on my soul.
I hear their laughter for it brings joy to my heart.
I feel the firmness of their handshake, the warmth of their hug and I know that I have been blessed.
I know that this world is better, that I am better for having known them and for their continued presence in my life.securedownload

See Yourself Where You Want to Be

It is already done. I see it because I am there. I feel myself breathing outward as the words pass through my lips just as I feel the coolness of the air return as I inhale making ready for the next. I hear the reactions of those to whom I speak and I am elated at the fulfillment of my success. I see the eyes of those I teach; wide with wonder, joyous for their discovery, tearful in the knowledge that they, too, have the absolute ability to rise from the ashes of so many dreams engulfed in flames before their eyes.
I speak without effort, allowing the words to flow from that greater expression of me. They form without thought, eager and ready to follow that pre-determined path from mouth to ears. We have a connection, they and I, a connection that defies description. We are working inside “that zone of perfection”; timeless, free from fear, full of a comfort and expectation. All is well in this place. It is as it should be: graceful, joyous and free. I am here because I choose to be. I choose to be because it is what I know to be that perfection that life has pushed me toward; what the Universe has been speaking for an eternity. I am fulfilled.
I open my eyes and return from this place. Those feelings of joy and freedom remain, lifting me above the turmoil that once was. I have seen my life, I have prepared the way and I know that the path before me will lead me there. It know thisIMG_1170 for I have lived it.
My heart fills with gratitude; such gratitude that it defies description. It is as if all of the light of the cosmos has turned its focus, working in unison for one common purpose and I find myself at its center.
I am complete for my purpose, my passion, lays before me. It calls me and I step towards its voice. It is done and I AM.