Did you survive the beast? Did you take a look at your past and how it lead you to where you are today? Did you notice those things about your past that have recurred to the point of your head spinning? Good!
Your past is important. It is what has molded you into who you are today. Every conversation, every thought, every interaction with another, everything you have perceived through any of your senses, everything.
Applying your past to your present you will, if you are attentive, recognize a dichotomy. One one hand, your thoughts and perceptions become a slave to your past. You have, no doubt, encountered the FEAR of trying something new. A very common example is trying to get up and speak before an audience. If things did not go well in a past experience, or if you perceived someone’s words as doubting your abilities, your heart will pump out of your chest, you will sweat and stutter, your mind may go blank. Just the thought of getting up in front of people becomes the most frightening thought you can have. But really all that is happening is what I like to call your Ego protecting you from reliving the hurt of that past experience; from having to “face the beast.” Your Ego will pull out all the stops to try and save you from “the beast.”
On the other hand, your past experiences, if you apply the lessons you have learned and recognize your innate desire to be safe from “the beast,” can allow you to explore the new and exciting, to recognize that you bring something of substance to this world and that there is no end to the possibilities. Which one do you see in yourself? How limiting is your “beast?”
So, let’s take a look at your past in a constructive way and see if you can get past the Ego’s limitations. Get out a notebook and something to write with. Make sure there is room in the notebook for future entries as well. Also, because I have no idea of where you are in your past (whether you recognize the difference between learning from it and living from it yet) we will start with the basics of just making a list. We will call this “My List of Positives.” Quite simply, write a list of things that you know are good about you. Things you like to do, places you like to go, things that people come to you for help with, things you know you are good at. (I am, apparently, very good at ending sentences with prepositions. Lol.)
You do not have to have the list completed in the next ten minutes. Take your time, mull it over. Take your notebook with you this week. There will be, no doubt, times when you will say: “Oh yeah. I like doing _________ or I am good at _________, or wow! People really do come to me to help with __________.” You can fill in the blanks. And if you decide that something on your list really does not belong there, cross it out. This is your List of Positives and no-one else’s.
Bring the notebook with you for the next entry and feel free to contact me if you have any questions. I am here to help you move forward to where you would like to be.
You can be, do and have anything if you will allow it into your life.