How to Attract What I Want

Attracting what you want in life can be as easy as 1, 2, 3…as long as you understand the Law of Attraction and you know what it is you want and don’t want.


You know that person, the one who tells the same story all the time about all of the terrible relationships they have had, how they always seem to attract the wrong kind of person and, no matter how much they focus on how they don’t what that kind of person in their life, they just seem to attract them anyway? And when they talk about the rest of what is going on in their life, it seems their personal life just spills over into that part as well. Right?

Some of us allow ourselves to get sucked into the story. Some of us want nothing to do with that story and get out of Dodge! But when we are around and listening to them, have you noticed that some of their “bad vibe” seems to rub off on you?

Have you ever said to yourself after one of these sessions with “that person” (or maybe you are that person) that you just want it all to stop?

The Law of Attraction is very agreeable. If it were a person, I would say it is a very agreeable fellow, but it is not. It is a LAW of a very abundant Universe that is only geared to give you that upon which you place your focus. Good, bad or indifferent, what you focus your attention on is exactly what it sees, hears and attracts.

So, as you can probably see, mindset is a very important part of attracting what you want. And mindset is a product of belief and belief is a product of how you have perceived everything you have experienced in life. For example, what do you think a person believes about him/herself when they have been told “No” or “Your not good enough” or “You won’t succeed” more than they have been told the opposite? That’s right, they are more likely than not believe that they are not capable, not smart, will never amount to anything. That is their mindset. It becomes like a default setting when they try to do more. It even results in some negative self-talk about their chances of survival.

On the other hand, what do you think the the mindset is of the person who has been encouraged, told “yes they can if they try” and like things? Do you think their default setting is a little different when they approach something new?

There is a wonderfully descriptive and helpful book out there titled “Mindset” that I encourage you to read. It really goes into a great deal of depth on this subject. You can order it from Amazon or in any brick and mortar book store. I’ll have it available on my recommended reading tab as well.

So, now we know that one’s mindset is important. Why? because it affects how one approaches everything in life. And knowing that the Law of Attraction is a very agreeable fellow, we know that to which we give our focus is generally what will be attracted to us.

This is actually a good thing, this knowing our mindset (how we approach things). I say this because knowledge can create change. If we are aware of how we are thinking about things, we can simply change our thought patterns, which change the kind of focus we give which results in that very agreeable fellow’s attraction of like things. In other words, we (YOU) have the ability to determine what we attract in our lives. Once we (YOU) control that, life can become very good, indeed.

So here’s a secret: Recognize how you feel about things when you think about them. If what you are focusing on is not something that you like, turn your attention to what it would be like to have something that you do like. Why? Because focusing on how lousy it feels to have or do “X” is communicating to that very agreeable fellow something to which you are giving a great deal of attention. The result? If that is what you are focusing your attention on, it must be something that you want. Otherwise you would not be giving it so much attention. On the other hand, if you acknowledge that thought as not being very pleasant and then turn your attention to something that is very agreeable, guess what that very agreeable fellow perceives as you wanting to attract. That’s right, that which is on your mind, to what you are giving your attention.

Let’s end this with an experiment. Think of something that wold bring you a great deal of joy. See it in your mind’s eye. See yourself enjoying it. Then see how real you can make it in your imagination. Think about how it feels to have it. Think about all of the wonderful things about it that make it so attractive to you. Why you want it, what it feels like. do that for a minute and see how it effects our outlook and then watch to see if things that lead you to that which gives you joy show up in your life.

When Passion Strikes

Some days are mundane. They involve the same old thing as every other day with the same people, the same activities, the same questions and answers, same, same, same. “Geeze,” we think to ourselves, “why can’t there be something new and exciting in life?” “I’m tired of doing the same old thing day in and day out! I need change!”

So, you spend your day thinking of all of the things in your life that don’t like. “I don’t like that anymore, its too hard or boring (or whatever).” Then you think of how things could be different, improved, better. You play the “what if” or “wouldn’t it be nice if” game and start getting all excited about how this new world of better and improved could really get exciting.

Here’s the crossroads. Now is generally when that Ego of yours starts talking about how the new would never make things better, that its too much change and change is scary and you are better off with the safely mundane.

What do you do? You have a choice, you know. (You always have a choice.) Do you dare to be different? Do you dare to allow yourself the chance at being more than you are? Or, do you fall back into living the same day over and over again, almost falling asleep because you could probably do it in your sleep anyway?

What does your intuition say? And how do you know if it is a good thing or a bad thing? What is the difference in feeling between that great new idea that hit you and the same old mundane? Great idea: excited, hopeful, giddy, can hardly keep still… Mundane: sleepy, bored, looking for more. Don’t know about you, but I would chose the great idea! Hey, if it doesn’t work the same old, boring and mundane will still be there.

I was recently invited to sing at my spiritual center. I had sung there many times before and started looking for music that was familiar. But I ran across this one piece that just spoke to me! Even though I really liked it, I found myself discussing with myself whether it would be appropriate, would I do a good job, whether it was something the congregation would be okay with. There were all sorts of reasons why I should not sing it, including that it was something I had not done before. It had a Soul!

What did I do? the same old mundane or something new and exciting? Well, I took the chance and it came our absolutely incredible (best one person had head in 5 years, he told me) So, I will share it with you here. I hope it will help get your engines revved up to take the chance the next time that great idea hits. Remember, you ALWAYS have a choice!

Here’s to passion and great ideas!


Changing the Story of You

So far we have learned that there is a huge difference between living from the past and learning from the past. Living from it is what many do because, let’s face it, it is hard to get past that Ego or Doubting Thomas when we are looking for change. Do you recognize the sounds and feelings of fear when change approaches? The heart pounds, breath gets shorter, beads of sweat start forming on the brow, all with the sound of that little voice inside that warns against it: “You know what happened last time. You fell and people laughed. It was humiliating. You certainly don’t want to go through that again. Stay here. It may not be comfortable, but it is what you know.”

Remember our discussion of fear? Ego hates change and so it sends the past to haunt your thoughts. When we can realize that, the size of our “But” shrinks and we make room for change. We start avoiding the beast!

Change is change. It necessarily means your approach to things has to be different than it has in the past. A big part of this is changing your beast’s story. By that I mean developing a new story. That’s where the lists of what you like, what people like about you and what you are good at come in. Once you can realize all of the things that you can do besides the same old rut activities that have kept you where you are, you can start taking steps (large or small) towards something for which you have a passion.

Let’s start with my story of you. No, I don’t know you, I may never have met you or seen the past you have been living with. But I know you. You are smart and capable. You are unique with a perspective of things that no one else has! You see, hear, feel, taste and smell things in a way that no one else could possibly imagine. And talk about creative! You life has been a journey off looking for more: more answers to those questions that fill you, a greater awareness of who you are and what drives you. You have a voice that people wait to hear. You have an idea that will change the way things are done, and for the better. You bring much more to this world that you realize!

So, let’s get started with changing the story of you. The past is the past. Stop living from it. The future is yours for the making. The only limitation is what you place on it in the here and now. And the now is where you start for that is all there really is; the now.

Here’s to change and knowing our truth!

The Truth of Who You Are

Surviving the Beast

Did you survive the beast? Did you take a look at your past and how it lead you to where you are today? Did you notice those things about your past that have recurred to the point of your head spinning? Good!

Your past is important. It is what has molded you into who you are today. Every conversation, every thought, every interaction with another, everything you have perceived through any of your senses, everything.

Applying your past to your present you will, if you are attentive, recognize a dichotomy. One one hand, your thoughts and perceptions become a slave to your past. You have, no doubt, encountered the FEAR of trying something new. A very common example is trying to get up and speak before an audience. If things did not go well in a past experience, or if you perceived someone’s words as doubting your abilities, your heart will pump out of your chest, you will sweat and stutter, your mind may go blank. Just the thought of getting up in front of people becomes the most frightening thought you can have. But really all that is happening is what I like to call your Ego protecting you from reliving the hurt of that past experience; from having to “face the beast.” Your Ego will pull out all the stops to try and save you from “the beast.”

On the other hand, your past experiences, if you apply the lessons you have learned and recognize your innate desire to be safe from “the beast,” can allow you to explore the new and exciting, to recognize that you bring something of substance to this world and that there is no end to the possibilities. Which one do you see in yourself? How limiting is your “beast?”

So, let’s take a look at your past in a constructive way and see if you can get past the Ego’s limitations. Get out a notebook and something to write with. Make sure there is room in the notebook for future entries as well. Also, because I have no idea of where you are in your past (whether you recognize the difference between learning from it and living from it yet) we will start with the basics of just making a list. We will call this “My List of Positives.” Quite simply, write a list of things that you know are good about you. Things you like to do, places you like to go, things that people come to you for help with, things you know you are good at. (I am, apparently, very good at ending sentences with prepositions. Lol.)

You do not have to have the list completed in the next ten minutes. Take your time, mull it over. Take your notebook with you this week. There will be, no doubt, times when you will say: “Oh yeah. I like doing _________ or I am good at _________, or wow! People really do come to me to help with __________.” You can fill in the blanks. And if you decide that something on your list really does not belong there, cross it out. This is your List of Positives and no-one else’s.

Bring the notebook with you for the next entry and feel free to contact me if you have any questions. I am here to help you move forward to where you would like to be.


You can be, do and have anything if you will allow it into your life.

How Big is Your “But”

Fear can be overwhelming. It can leave you shaken and immovable. It is sly, deceiving and damning all at the same time.

So when was the last time you had this great idea that took you into a whirlwind of excitement? Did you act on that idea or, after the excitement calmed, allowed that all too familiar “but” to dissuade you from action? What did the “But” sound like? Not enough time to get it all done? (Like that doesn’t apply with what you are doing anyway.) Not enough know how? (And yet the computer and other sources are at your fingertips.) Can’t afford to go whole hog on the idea? (Yet you have room in your budget for many other things.)

What we are really talking about is FEAR.

FEAR comes from the need for self-preservation. You know, avoiding being eaten by the beast. Yes, I know, it’s been a long time since those days (unless you happen to be a lion tamer or something) but the instinct is there nevertheless. And it doesn’t mean that there is no longer a beast! Paying bills, holding down a job and caring for family and all of the “stuff” that comes with, or that is associated with it can be just as scary as any Sabertooth. The consequences may not be as deadly but the psychological effects of failure (being eaten by the beast) are just as real.

So how do we overcome FEAR? How do we get past that inner voice warning us not to go down that road lest we get eaten by the beast? That voice that reminds us of the last time we made a mistake and how it made us feel?

There are some realizations that we have to come to. The FIRST is knowing that we cannot change what happened in the past. And while we are thinking of that past, it is important to understand the difference between LEARNING from that past and LIVING from it. We can recognize past mistakes, different avenues that might have been taken, but we cannot afford to allow ourselves to wallow in those mistakes and be stuck forever in the mire of perceived failure.

That is a lot! Just understanding that a past mistake has had a stagnating effect on our ability to move forward is HUGE! If you think on it, you may find that one or more past mistakes has accounted for a really big “But”.

So take some time to think about this first step of understanding your past. After all, it has led you to where you are now. You may even want to get out a notebook and pen/pencil and jot down some thoughts on the issue. What you learn about yourself may surprise you.

Until next time, blessings and all things Good.

“It’s All About Me”
You can be, do and have anything if you will allow it into your life.


Your Desires Matter

Do your desires really matter? In a word, yes. Your desires, just like mine, are thoughts that we have formed based on a life of discovering what we do and do not like, that we want more, that our lives would be better served in the pursuit of them. (Not to mention the side benefits that the world would enjoy through our realizations of those desires…Ok, so I mentioned them.)

Too often we find ourselves putting our own desires on the back-burner because of the need to fulfill the desires of others. Whether it is some new project at work, helping the needs of friends and/or family, or half a dozen other things, we sometimes find ourselves just never getting around to that all-important “me”.

Now, don’t get me wrong, it is important to serve. It is important to be compassionate and giving. Giving fills us with pride and those goose bumps that tell us we have done something rewarding and important. But in order to be in a position to give we must take time to nurture ourselves. We must rest, read, contemplate, meditate and do all of those things necessary to feed our own souls so that we can keep up in our service to others. A person who has fallen from exhaustion lends no help to others in need.

It is equally important that we recognize that we have desires. They serve to move us forward in life. Indeed, it is often the case that our desires to better ourselves align with our desires to help.

What are your desires/your wants/your needs? Take time to understand them and to pursue them. Only you know what they are and only you can take steps to pursue them. You are important. You matter. You are powerful and loved.


Stop and smell your own roses
Stop and smell your own roses

From Blank to Inspired in Fifteen Minutes

Sometimes, not often, I sit in silence waiting for inspiration; trying everything I can think of to find it: meditation, visualizing myself writing something profound, walking in the sunlight, listening to my favorite tunes, and a hundred other things, but nothing comes. I know its there…somewhere, I just can’t seem to put my mind’s eye on it. And so it goes until I have tried every possible angle at jarring some piece of literary genius loose from that ever present Universe of Infinite possibilities. All, that is, except for the obvious.

And so I sit down, pen in hand, paper before me and I write. It doesn’t really matter what I put down on that paper as long as I write. It doesn’t matter if I have fifteen minutes of writing “I don’t know what to write” over and over again. At some point it happens. The pen moves. Almost as if reading my thoughts, the pen moves more and more quickly across the page. Soon it is moving so quickly that the ink barely has enough time to soak into the paper before the next sentence comes. The words spew out, seemingly of their own accord, pen talking to hand as if engaged in some language that only the two can understand. But I know it is my thoughts that guide them. It is like the opening of a channel and allowing the water to flow where it may. Soon there is a flood of ideas, of emotion, of words.

There is a connection with the pen and paper, much like the mind connects to the infinite. The pen being like the idea, so anxious to be realized and the paper acting as the blank slate upon which the inspiration lay. The paper has no say in what is written upon it. It must by its very nature accept the writings of the pen, the soaking of the ink and in return, holding forever the record of the thought that was placed upon it until the ink has faded into that from which it came, only to be replaced by another thought: better, more inspired than those that came before it.

Have you noticed that an idea, once acted upon, becomes the thing that was thought? Then comes another idea to place on top of the first, intended to refine it, to make it better, to allow the experience to be enhanced. The idea becomes more than its original form. but that is also the nature of things. For we all want to be more than we are in this moment.

But what does that mean? To be more than we are in this moment? Is it more toys or money like the old adage of trying to keep up with the Jones? I think not. There is a deeper meaning than simply trying to be the one who ends up with the most “stuff”. It’s a bettering of the self. It is a yearning to understand, of self-realization, of growth. It’s being able to see someone else’s idea come to fruition and to be happy for them rather than being jealous because we know that this is the end game: to live, to experience joy, to know that we are more than we appear and that there is no limit to what we can do. It is an allowing of that from which we are made to shine through us, leading us to heights beyond which we ever thought possible.

Have you sat in the silence, not knowing what to write, say or do? Take pen to paper and see what your fifteen minutes brings.

From Blank to Inspired in Fifteen Minutes
From Blank to Inspired in Fifteen Minutes

They knew.

“I lost my parents” they said to me. “I lived all of my life with them and they never knew how much I loved them. I never took the opportunity to tell them. It is something that has haunted my for a very long time.”
I hear this a lot from people about parents, children, spouses, siblings, grandchildren. It is a common occurrence in this fast-paced business of living life. And so, I always ask:
What is your first memory of them? Being held in your parents arms as they take you home? Being allowed to hold your new sibling for the first time or their holding you? Is it holding your child in your arms for the first time after their birth? Is it your first meeting when you knew this was to be your life’s companion?
All of us, every one, has a memory of that person that we hold dear, that brings a smile or a tear. And it is not just your memory. You did not experience it alone.
There are sayings about regret, and they all come down to “if only.” Yes, we all wish our losses did not come as they did and we all wish that we had done something more: A kinder word, more tolerance, that we had taken time to do that thing we had always meant to do but never had the chance.
Obviously this is a call to take action: to say the words, to stop putting off that time together, to do something to avoid all of this in the first place. But it is also to ease your pain, your guilt, that regret for the action you wish you had taken before it was too late.
Do you remember that memory, that first experience with them? Do you believe that you were the only one feeling the love and wonder you experienced? The closeness and the anticipation of better things to come? There was a meeting that day and the days since. There has always been a bond, a special feeling, a knowing, a love.
We may not always have the opportunity to say the words we would like to say, but our lives, and theirs’, have been filled with all that is really necessary to know of your love.
They knew, just as you know. Take heart, and solace, in the knowing, in the remembrance of love’s embrace. That they knew then, just as they know now. Ocean

What do You Believe About Yourself?

There is nothing you cannot be do or have if you allow it into your life.

Many would look at that sentence and never give it a second thought because they know it is true. Others would look at that sentence and immediately conclude that it is talking about someone. The difference? Mindset.

Some people are programed from an early age that they are set in their intelligence, in their ability, and in what they will be able to accomplish in their life.
Others take the sentence to heart, knowing that they are constantly learning, constantly improving and that the sky is only as high as they can learn to reach.

So, what is your mindset? Why? If your mindset is that you are limited, can you change it? I guess that depends on whether you want to change. And why wouldn’t you want to change? I know many people who don’t have a great deal of confidence in themselves. They think that if they don’t get something right (perfectly right) the first time, they should give up and go back to something more comfortable. What they forgot in their mindset is that they had to learn how to do those things that they are comfortable with in order to get to that point in the first place.

I don’t now anyone who was born with a vocabulary, the ability to recognize and identify things in their surroundings, to walk, to write, to type, to do pretty much anything. Walking took practice as did everything else in life. That means learning something new is possible. Does it mean that it will be done perfectly the first time? NO! Did Einstein have trouble learning math? YES! Did Michael Jordan have to practice and practice and practice to become a great basketball player? OF COURSE! Did Elvis (or any other artist) expect to pick up his guitar and just start playing like it was something he had been doing all his life? OF COURSE NOT!

Ask anyone you admire how they got where they are. They will tell you it took lots and lots of practice, and practice means they did not succeed the first, second, third, tenth, or maybe even the hundredth time.

If you are so committed to believing that you cannot be do or have what you dream of, why are you reading this? Why do you try? Why do you feel like there is more to life than you are currently experiencing? It is because there is!

I don’t know most of you on a personal level which means I have no idea what your current abilities are or what you think about them. BUT WHAT I DO KNOW ABOUT YOU is that you are just as capable and deserving of your dream as anyone on the planet. Yes, you CAN be, do or have anything if you will allow it into your life. Does that mean that you will play the same as Michael or Elvis or anyone else? No. You are an individual with your own approach to everything. You are your own person with your own everything. Does that mean you are not just as good? No. You will just do it with your own flair. But you can be just as good. All it takes is a little belief that you can. Once you believe you can, it just a willingness to step forward and start on that path of being what you want to be.

Believe in yourself! I do!

It all starts with a belief.
It all starts with a belief.

Living With Passion and Purpose

I have been rehearsing two beautiful and moving pieces of music that I will be singing as a duet with a wonderful soul this Sunday. “One With the Divine” by Gary Floyd and Doug LeBow and the other is “Only What You Make of It” by Little Big Town. I find rehearsing easy because I am really looking forward to performing. It is something that brings me joy: working with talented musicians, creating a sound that will move people to a better place. It is very far from the #thisaintit that so many experience on a daily basis. I am very grateful to have found something that brings me (and others) so much joy!
So, what is your joy? Do you have a passion? If you do, how often do you engage in the activity? If you are not doing it on a regular basis, what is holding you back? And what is holding you back from figuring out what is holding you back?
So often we let “life” get in the way of taking that next step to a happier and more fulfilling life. We say “I would love to do that but I have too much_________ to let me get to it.(You can fill in the blank) Sometimes that may be exactly the case. But it cannot be that way all of the time…unless we are doing things to keep it that way. Sometimes, without even realizing it, we subconsciously take on “duties” that we know will keep us from moving toward joy. Sometimes because the change is really, really scary, sometimes because our past has convinced us that we will not be successful in taking the chance at happiness.
What I know, as Abraham would say, is that there is nothing you cannot be, do or have if you will allow it into your life. And how do you allow it into your life? That, my friend, is the easy first step. If you know, or even have an idea of what would bring joy to your life, see yourself doing it. But not just in the daydream kind of sight; really SEE yourself doing it. See, hear and feel yourself there. Feel the rush of the excitement as you are in the midst of what brings you so much joy! For me and singing, I can certainly feel it while rehearsing, but I also see myself in front of the audience, surrounded by my fellow musicians (the band, the stage, and so forth) and I allow it all to invade my experience. MMMM. It feels like happiness. It feels like love. It feels like warm hugs, like the universe holding me it its arms.
Get the idea?
When you can SEE yourself doing what it is you love to do, you raise your experience to a higher vibration. You become one with the divine, and the Universe listens. It listens and then rushes to catch up to your vibration, bringing with it all of those things needed to make your experience real.
It, disney splash 3 You know that question everyone always walks around asking? “What is my purpose? I must be here for a reason.” Now you know the answer as well. You are here to life a happy, exciting and passionate life, ever growing, ever experiencing more and loving every minute of it!